Do You Play the Blame Game?

When things go wrong, who’s to blame?

Marriages go stale for all sorts of reasons but sometimes we focus on the effect rather than the cause. An affair, for example is rarely the cause of a marital break up, it can however, be the last straw.

Cause and Effect

When relationships fail it is usually due to a build up of issues that have gradually weighed down the marriage. It’s very easy to place the blame on your partner but often, after a lot of soul searching, couples can see that each has a part to play in a disintegrating romance. It’s back to cause and effect – one set of behaviors or attitudes prompts your partner to act in a certain way.

Identify and Address Issues

Untangling marital problems is an important factor in resolving differences however it is unhealthy and unhelpful to play the blame game. Better to identify issues and look to address them.

You may ask yourself the following questions:

-       Why did my marriage become so dull?

-       When did he/she start to nag so much?

-       Why does he/she spend so much time on x rather than y?

-       When did we last have a good talk?

-       Why is he/she so disinterested in me?

The honeymoon may be over and you may both have got caught up in life and the day-to-day responsibilities you both have within and outside of the marriage. However, every day doesn’t need to be full of romance and excitement, it should however, be full of caring, sharing support.

Lead the Way

It also has to be said that breaking a cycle of boredom or indifference doesn’t happen without real change and effort. If you are the one who is restless and wants change, it may be up to you to take action to turn things around.

The basics of any marriage involve communication, respect and compromise. If you can incorporate these three basic rules into the way you treat each other then the future bodes well for you both. It’s not easy to turn things around though, and you may need help to save your marriage today. Why not check out this great resource that has already helped thousands of couples across the globe. It comes tried and tested and has worked its magic on thousands of struggling relationships.

So forget who’s to blame and focus on instilling good qualities in your marriage, starting with demonstrating good, positive traits yourself. Even if your partner is entrenched in bad habits, take the bull by the horns and lead the way.

How to Improve Your Marriage

There are so many ways you can improve your marriage. Here are some 'marriage-saving' tips we’d like to pass on to you today.

Stay Friends

One of the best pieces of advice to married couples is to treat each other like a best friend. You may have all sorts of problems and stresses within or outside of the marriage, but never forget the true friendship and love that you share, whatever situation you find yourselves in.

Laugh at Life

Don’t forget your sense of fun. Just because your married, have kids, have busy jobs and find it hard to keep all the balls in the air; it doesn’t mean that you should give up on laughter. Keep your sense of humor, it’ll be a valuable asset to help you through the stresses and strains that life brings.

Viva la difference!

Don’t expect your spouse to always agree with you or feel the same way as you do. We’re all different; and it’s probably part of what attracted you to each other in the first place.

There are lots of ways to save a marriage but the central core of any marriage is friendship. Restoring your friendship is the first step to saving your marriage.

Clear Your Mind

Marriages hit the rocks for all sorts of reasons - it could be a gradual disintegration of a once-loving relationship or a sudden unraveling due to just one event.


Whatever the background, one thing is for sure - when things go wrong you experience a multitude of different feelings - some of them conflicting. Jealousy, betrayal, annoyance, frustration, helplessness, disappointment, hurt, regret and more.


How do clear your head so that you can think straight and start to devise a plan to patch things up?


Find out about the calming mind technique - a trick to help you clear an overloaded mind so that you can begin to make plans to rekindle your relationship.

How to get Your Wife Back

Is your marriage breaking up? Are you wondering how to get your wife back?

Almost every adult has experienced the pain of a deteriorating relationship and some give up and start to work on moving on rather than looking for a way to retrieve the marriage.

We all have pressures and strains on our relationships and even patches when the relationship completely breaks down. But a downward turn doesn’t have to mean things are irretrievable and it’s never too late to put a concerted effort to get your love back.

Turn Things Around

It’s a fact that 90% of the time there is no reason why you cannot get your wife back after your relationship starts to fail.

This blog, designed for both men and women, will look at different tactics you can try to get your marriage back on track.